A leader lifts first and sets down last

A leader does not abide within his tent while his men bleed and die upon the fields.  A leader does not dine while his men go hungry, nor sleep while they stand watch upon the wall.  A leader does not command his men's loyalty through fear or purchase it with gold. A leader lifts first and sets down last. A leader does not require service of those he leads but provides it to them.  He serves  them, not them he.

Stephen Pressfield paraphrased from
Gates of Fire